If you are a single guy and you want to improve your success at getting dates with women, then you probably have thought about how you look or more specifically, the way that you dress and wonder if that might increase your odds of getting dates. I don’t think that it should come as any surprise that people DO make judgements based on the way that other people look, it’s one of those ‘dirty little secrets’ that we all know is true. The real question is, how much does your success with women depend on the way that you dress?
I’m going to have to give my favorite, ambiguous answer here and just say that it depends. It depends because not every woman thinks the same look is attractive. Now, most of the dating advice for men style columns and articles all support the idea that you need to dress really trendy, kind of metrosexual, and they usually hint that if you don’t dress like this, then you will not do well with women.
Well, that is not exactly true. See, not all women are attracted to that metrosexual look. Not all women want to date a guy that uses more product in their hair than they do. Not all women want to date a guy who wears jeans that are skinnier than hers. See, to think that there is just one look that will get you dates with women, it’s a pretty narrow way to look at it.
Both men and women build up what they consider to be an ideal image of the kind of person that they want to date. And not everyone’s ideal image is quite the same. Some women do want that trendy, metrosexual look on a guy. They want the guys that they date to look that way. Some women don’t. Some prefer the blue collar, jeans and a t-shirt kind of guy. Some want the guy that looks like he just stepped off of a Harley.
What matters MOST is that your style reflects and amplifies YOUR personality:
Let’s say that you are the typical blue jeans and a t-shirt blue collar guy. And because you hear that women want that metrosexual look, you change up your appearance. So, you go out, you start talking to some women and it looks like it works. It looks that way, because since you are dressed that way… you attract women that like that look.
Here’s where the rub comes in though. Now, you are with a woman who wants you to be one way… while deep down inside you are a completely different guy. How long do you think you can pull that one off? Probably not too long before you start to grow tired of having to fake it so that she is attracted to you. Of course, it reinforces that idea that you need to dress that way, because by dressing that way… that is the kind of woman you attract.
Do you want to attract women you have to fake it with, or women you can enjoy yourself with?
This really is a question that only YOU can answer. I sure can’t answer it for you. After all, you are the one that has to actually deal with the women that you attract. If you dress in a way that reflects and amplifies YOUR personality, odds are… you will attract a woman that digs that look. She will also probably be a better match for you when it comes to having fun. After all, if you prefer a bike rally and she wants to go to a fashion show, at some point, there is going to be some friction and I don’t mean the good kind.
If you want to dress for success with women, then it has to reflect yourself and the kind of women you want to attract.
That really is the key to choosing how to dress to attract women. Yes, you can pick up a guy’s magazine and see that they suggest that you try and look like a clone of whatever Hollywood actor is hot right now, but is that going to really help you to attract the kind of women you WANT to be with.