So while David Beckham epitomises that metrosexual male, the one so many women seem to want, Donald Trump has been mentioned to represent the alpha male, who still has the ability to attract and keep beautiful women.  So what do men do?  Be more like David or Donald?  It doesn’t have to be chalk and cheese.  Take the best of both, combine it with who you essentially are and voilà...a man that will attract the women...

The following 5 factors are just some of what women would find attractive in a David or Donald.  Keep in mind that you can do all these things today to attract women. 

5 factors to attract women

1.       Women find your attitude to success attractive 

You might not yet have achieved the success you want but you have made a start and are on your way.  You have started to make it happen and success is on your agenda.  This is what is attractive.  This one may surprise you.   The ability of a man to set a clear course, follow it, despite the obstacles and achieve the goal gives women a lot of confidence in that man and his potential ability to provide for her and any family.

This should serve as some encouragement to men who believe that they have not yet achieved the level of wealth or status or whatever to be attractive enough to women.  You don’t have to!  Displaying these characteristics and actions in your day to day life with small or large goals can make you very attractive.

2.       Show women your emotions to deepen that connection

If you clicked with a woman or just had that chemistry; the attraction is based on sexual tension conjured up between you, related to appearance, communication and the essence of you both.  Deepen your connection by telling stories/experiences that engage your emotions.  This way she can see a snapshot of the deeper you and how different events and circumstances affect you and to what degree.  Also, by understanding, listening and empathising with her emotions, you can deepen that connection further.

3.       Come to terms with your past and future

Whatever might have happened in your past it is important to be able to acknowledge it, learn from it, get help if necessary and move on from it.   It is then important to get direction and create a vision for your future.  No matter what your vision is, have conviction in it and you are more likely to attract a woman who is interested in your vision.

4.       Self confidence and how you carry yourself

Your body language and non verbal interaction indicate a lot more than you realise about how you are feeling and what you are thinking.  Let your eyes, gestures and postures do the talking and demonstrate that you feel good about yourself and confident by maintaining a strong posture.  Hold your chin high, your shoulders square, look people in the eyes in a friendly interested way and above all else smile!  Even if you don’t particularly feel confident in situations, take on the persona of someone confident and over time you will feel more confident.

5.       Be a man

Consider what it is that you love about a woman?  You will no doubt come up with lots of things which will be common to many of you.  Consider what a woman would find attractive about men.  There are a range of common characteristics but integrity, knowing who you are and where you are going are some fundamentals.  Display these and your attractiveness increases.  Women can then trust you, feel safe, lean on you and feel confident that you can guide her and lead her to a great future.

© Denise Corlett – Dating Advice 2008.