You see it in the movies all the time - a sexy starlet reaching orgasm at the exact same time as her suitor. In reality this is incredibly rare; couples don’t tend to come at the same time. But climaxing within seconds of your partner can be extremely intense - because each sensation is amplified; and the good news is that while it’s rare it’s not impossible. And with a little bit of work you could enjoy this sexual treat. Read on for tips on how to come together.

Why Doesn’t It Happen?
There are a couple of reasons why dual orgasms are not common. Firstly, many women only orgasm from oral or manual stimulation; because the attention that the clitoris receives during those acts isn’t replicated during intercourse. Secondly, those that do reach orgasm during penetration usually don’t do so at the same time as their partner.

Positioning
If your partner isn’t orgasmic during intercourse then the first step is to help her learn to climax during sex. Your choice of position can play an important role; try a position that allows maximum body to body contact (for a feeling of closeness and clitoral stimulation) and a good angle of penetration (to target the front wall of the vagina) – generally woman-on-top positions are good for this. Constant clitoral stimulation is needed by most women in order to reach orgasm and you should be aware that even in the right position, the rhythmic thrusting of your hips may not be enough to bring your partner to climax, so you should be prepare to ‘take matters into your own hands’ and stimulate her clitoris with your digits.
You can also try to recreate the sensations that she would feel during oral sex by using plenty of lubricant to imitate the wetness of your mouth and start out slowly with shallow strokes that stimulate the outer and most sensitive part of the vagina. The idea is that with a little practice, climaxing during intercourse will come naturally to your partner.

Timing
It’s widely known that men climax faster than women do. On average women take ten to twenty minutes to peak whereas men take just two to seven minutes. So what can you do to bridge the gap? Give her a head start, foreplay is always important, so spend some time tantalising your partner orally or manually up to the point of, but not actually to, orgasm. Then let your thrusting trigger the orgasmic reflex.

If you get too close to orgasm too soon there are a couple of tried and tested techniques that you can use to lower your level of arousal. You can withdraw and gently squeeze the head of your penis for five seconds, pull down gently on your testicles or push your penis downward while holding the base. Alternatively you may want to have an orgasm before you attempt to ‘come together’ because most men find they have much better control the second time around.

The Helping Hand
Many couples use vibrators during intercourse to help the female partner orgasm and they can be the most effective way to ensure a shared orgasm experience. Try slipping a clitoral vibrator or bullet vibrator in between your bodies during intercourse. It will provide her with the extra stimulation that she needs to orgasm during sex.
Don't give up or get discouraged if the timing's off the first few times or if it doesn’t go how you expected.  Sometimes a shared climax is more difficult to achieve if you are focused on it as the single desired effect so remember to relax and enjoy yourself. The more often you attempt to peak in tandem, the easier it will become.