Not got a huge budget for Valentines this year? But still want to show your partner that you care? A romantic, sensual massage is a gift that any girl will appreciate this February 14^th. And the only expense is massage oil – if you don’t already have it. Simply follow the hot tips below and you’re in for an even hotter night.

Set the Scene

A massage is only sensual and relaxing if it is not rushed. So try to set aside an hour to truly dedicate to making this a pleasurable experience for her. The room should be warm so your partner can be totally naked and not get cold. If you’ve chosen a bed as the venue for your romantic rub-down, make sure the sheets are clean and the pillows are fluffed. Make sure the lighting is dim and soothing and be prepared with some moisturiser or oils to use as a lubricant for your massage.  Scented candles and soft music are not a must but certainly wouldn’t go unnoticed by most girls!

Where to start

Warm your hands and lather them with massage oil. Guide your girl to the bed, undress her, and get her to lie on her stomach.  Place both hands on her back - one on the upper back and one on the lower back. Leave your hands here for a few minutes and allow your partners breathing to deepen as she begins to relax. Make sure your breathing is slow and calm too, as she will follow your lead.  Begin at the neck, using your thumbs to ‘knead’ her neck and upper back. Work across one shoulder, and down her arm. Wrap your hand around the upper arm and use a twisting motion to massage down the length of the arm. Repeat on the other side.  Using large, circular movements, stroke up and down her back, one hand on each side of her spine. Use your thumbs to make circles on the lower back, and gradually work down to her buttocks. Use a firm, ‘kneading’ pressure up and down each of her legs.

Flip her over

When you have covered every inch of her back, ask your partner to turn over. Straddle her and massage her arms and hands again, this time from the front.  Start to make things more sensual by gently kissing her eyelids, cheeks, lips, and neck. Use your thumbs to gently push oil into her collar bone and up the sides of her neck. Run your fingers several times through her hair, from the base of the neck to the top of the head. Massage the temples in light circles. Use your fingertips to stroke from the centre of the nose, across the cheeks, to the ears. Trace her lips with your finger.

Making it more sensual

To take this massage from enjoyable to erotic, start to focus more carefully on her erogenous zones. If it has started to get a bit dry, freshen the oil in your hands, and begin massaging your partner’s breasts. Take one breast in each hand and knead them simultaneously with your fingertips. Rhythmically push them together and then press them back apart again. Lightly drag your fingertips down her stomach to her genitals. Place a well-oiled hand over her vulva with the fingers pointing toward the anus, and then stroke gently upwards, so that your palm grazes the clitoris on the way. Follow this motion with your other hand - building up a rhythmic hand-after-hand motion.  Using your thumb, stroke on either side of her clitoris, but not directly on top of it. You may stop here and see whether she wants to continue. Chances are she will! Or for more advanced erotic massage techniques you might want to watch a DVD on the subject. 

Keep your movements continuous and balanced – don’t massage one arm without then massaging the other. The important thing with massage is to be attentive to your partner’s reactions. She may communicate enjoyment or discomfort through words or body language – so be mindful of how she is responding to your stimulation. And rest assured, that the fact that you’ve taken the time to focus solely on her enjoyment will reap huge rewards.

Take Care, Sarah Gibson at www.sexgear.co.nz

P.S. If there’s anything about sex that you’d like to ask, or a discussion you’d like to start just email me info@sg.co.nz and I’ll do my best to write about it for you here at getfrank.co.nz