Last week I gave you a glimpse into the female mind and told you about Her Top 5 Fantasies – and this week it’s your turn! I’m not going to tell you what your top fantasies are (because you already know that) but I am going to give you some hints and tips on how to turn those fantasies into a reality.

It can be hard to communicate your deepest, dirtiest fantasies with your partner, and before you even try you need to be sure that your girlfriend or wife feels secure and satisfied in your relationship; because if she’s not, no matter how well you proposition her, she’ll be unlikely to want to share the fantasy adventure with you.

Plant the Seed
So when you’re sure your partner has no cause for complaint, the next step is to ease your way into the fantasy. When you first mention a fantasy, simply plant a seed and let it take root. Don’t go into too much detail. This will gently acclimatise your partner to the fantasy and hopefully get her imagination running wild! The idea is to get her turned on about your fantasy so that she wants to join in, not bully her into it, so it’s important not to pressure her, it won’t win you any brownie points and it’ll only make her more likely to refuse. Similarly, don’t bring it up every five minutes to see if she decided to give it a go yet – you’ll look somewhat desperate and that certainly isn’t an attractive quality!

But how do you bring up the subject of the fantasy in the first place? The golden rule is to make sure she is in her comfort zone before you make your move – so you’ll need to be somewhere private where she feels relaxed. You could simply ask her about her sexual fantasies while you are fooling around in the bedroom and then tell her about yours. Or if you are feeling shy, you could present your fantasy as a dream. Tell your partner that you had a sexy dream about her and let her pry the details out of you, then subtly let her know it wouldn’t be too awful if that were to happen in real life! How ever you broach the subject, remember to always keep it light and fun.

Talk It Over
Once you know that your partner is on board with your sexual fantasy, you can start to enjoy talking over the finer details. Arouse your partners mind with all of the things you would like to do to her (or have her do to you) during the fantasy scenario. Remember that acting out your fantasy is a mutual experience so try to focus on the parts that she might find the most fun, constantly talking about your own pleasure will make the fantasy seem rather one sided and selfish. Taking the next step and actually acting out the fantasy will be more likely if you make your partner feel as though she is in the starring role. Yes, it is your fantasy, but you are the one that wants her to come along for the ride.

Return the Favour
As we discovered last week, men are not the only ones with fantasies. And in all successful relationships there is always give and take – especially in the bedroom. So when you ask her to act out your fantasies you should be prepared to do the same for her. And who knows, if her fantasy is to tie you up and tease you into exquisite oblivion, you may just find that you have the best sex of your life!

Great sex is about exploration and discovery, preferably with someone that you love and trust. Sharing your fantasies with your partner, even if you don’t end up turning them into a reality, will in most cases, bring you closer together. And while all women are different, these tips should give you the best shot at success – good luck.